A co-worker, who already had a child and was expecting another one around the same time as I was, told me not to have high expectations and that it wasn’t always going to be easy. I thought this was the best baby advice given to me before birth. Truth be told I’m a glass half empty kind of person, so I didn’t think it would be easy. Call me pessimistic, but I think it’s the best way to live. Having low expectations means having little disappointment. Anything above and beyond what you expect would be a bonus. So, we had breastfeeding issues and baby did not sleep well the first few months, no sweat. Having a baby isn’t easy. 😉 With time and consultation with a lactation consultant, the breastfeeding issues were resolved. She also slept better after some sleep training. It got easier, until something else comes up, like teething or a cold or what we are dealing with right now – separation anxiety.
As I look back now, my co-worker probably also told me that although it won’t be easy, it would be worth it and that I should savour every moment. I was probably just too focused on the negative to hear the latter. I tend to do that – focus on the negative rather than the positive. If someone were to ask me for baby advice, I would definitely tell them to savour every moment because in a blink of an eye, your baby would’ve changed and not be the same as they were last month or last week or even yesterday. In a blink of an eye, they would no longer be that tiny newborn who could barely keep their eyes open. Before you know it, they will start to roll over, then crawl and run. They change so quickly and there’s nothing you can do to stop it. I would advise moms to be to cherish the first smiles, hiccups and giggles.
This is where I’m at now. A year has past since my baby girl was born. I cannot believe how fast it’s gone by. One minute, I was having contractions and the next, my little baby is now a toddler who would prefer to furniture surf than be held, who is no longer content just sitting in one spot but is curious and prefers to explore. I am in awe of the new things she learns everyday and her increasing understanding of language. I look forward to the day when she can walk, speak and feed herself, but I also miss the “simplier” days when she was content just eating and sleeping the day away.
What was the best baby advice given to you?