With Mother’s Day coming up, we thought it would be fun to share a few things about our journeys to becoming moms. So here goes….this is how we made our pregnancy announcement….
My husband and I were lucky in that it was not really difficult for us to conceive. It only took a few months once we decided to start trying. But even though it was only about 3 months or so before we saw those double lines on the pregnancy test, it was still disappointing those months when we were not successful. I dreaded my monthly visit from aunt Flo a little more than usual. When she was late, I didn’t want to get my hopes up, so I waited…and waited…for maybe about a week before I took a test. And when I did, I still wasn’t so sure because that second line that appeared was so darn faint! Why couldn’t they make these tests better?!? I mean, you would expect the second line to be the same intensity as the first, no??? So what was I to do? Google of course! It confirmed that if you see a second line, the test is positive, no matter how faint it was. Even after that, I was still in disbelief. I knew that miscarriages were common (1 out of 6 women have a miscarriage during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy) so I waited a few more weeks before I went to the doctor’s to confirm. It wasn’t until my first ultrasound, when we saw the little tiny heart beating that I believed there was a tiny human being growing inside of me.
During these weeks, both my husband and I were tight lipped about our developing little babe. We didn’t even tell our parents or siblings. We wanted to wait until the second trimester since the risk of miscarriage is lower after the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. It was Thanksgiving around the start of my second trimester so we thought we would tell our families at our Thanksgiving gatherings. With my family, we thought we would play with them a little before we told them. Yes, we are cruel that way. We made them wait 7 years, what’s a few more minutes so that we can have some fun with them? 😉 My mom and sister have been bugging us about having children the second after we got married. I am not exaggerating. As the years went by and we remained childless, their hopes decreased and they started to bug us less. A few months before we got pregnant, we adopted a dog. I’m sure when we adopted our dog, Rocky, that their hopes of us having children decreased even more. So, during our Thanksgiving dinner, we told them that we were going to adopt another dog and that we had a picture of the dog to show them.
When we showed them this ultrasound, my sister instantly burst into tears, while my mom didn’t understand and asked, “Rocky’s having a baby?” Silly mom, Rocky’s a boy! Lol. We had to explain that we were the ones having a baby, which led to more tears for all.
With my husband’s family, we weren’t as cruel. Before dinner, we gathered everyone to take a picture, with hubby behind the camera pretending to take a picture but all the while recording a video of the whole thing. Instead of having everyone say cheese, he told them to say “Happy Thanksgiving” and then with the next photo, he had everyone say, “We’re having a baby!”. They all repeated, “We’re having a baby…….whaaaaat??” It took a while after they said it before they realized what it meant. And once again, as you can imagine there were more tears. 🙂
How did you announce your pregnancy?
Did you know that Mother’s Day was created by a woman named Anna Jarvis, who never had any children? For more fun Mother’s Day facts, see yesterday’s post. 🙂
Mother’s Day, a celebration of motherhood that falls on the 2nd Sunday in May in North America, is only a month away. What does Mother’s Day mean to you?
THE FIRST MOTHER’S DAY
According to the History channel it became an official US holiday in 1914 due to the efforts of Anna Jarvis. Jarvis, who was childless her entire life, created Mother’s Day in 1908 to celebrate and honor the sacrifices mothers made for their children following her mother’s death in 1905. A church service was held in observation of Mother’s Day and Jarvis selected the carnation, her mother’s favorite flower, as a symbol of Mother’s Day.
The most likely precedent of Mother’s Day was the Christian festival of Mothering Sunday, held on the fourth Sunday of Lent, where the faithful would return to their “mother church” for a special service.
MOTHER’S DAY GIFTS
The holiday was originally church service and visiting one’s mother, but it quickly became commercialized. Now, when I hear Mother’s Day, I almost automatically expect a third word to follow: brunch, or gift, or card, or flowers. Billions are spent on Mother’s Day flowers each year, with Mother’s Day in second place for the most holiday floral sales, after Christmas/ Chanukah and ahead of Valentine’s Day according to aboutflowers.com.
Growing up, we didn’t really celebrate Mother’s Day. My parents were self employed in retail so they always worked on Mother’s Day. There was no brunch and our family never really did cards or presents. I vaguely remember getting mom a cake some years, but I can’t be certain.
After I moved away from home, I started calling. Then when I started working, I began sending flowers.
And before having my daughter, this was what I expected that my future kids would at least do. They better call and get flowers for me. I thought I would be sad if they didn’t, but now that I have a daughter, my view on this holiday changed a little.
I love my mom even more, and want to do more to show her my love, gratitude and appreciation, but I also no longer expect anything on Mother’s Day. My daughter is the greatest gift I could have and having her love brings me happiness. If she didn’t love me, then I rather her not just gesturally send me a card or gift. It will only make me cry. Emotional yeah?
I had thought that the powerful emotional effects from pregnancy hormones ended after giving birth but something must have carried over for me. I feel I’m more emotional now that I’m a mom; after Melissa shared her amazing home-birth story with me, I started reminiscing about my own daughter’s delivery.
Since Mother’s Day is only a month away, all of us here at Sinks Full of Dishes wanted to take the next few weeks sharing some parts of our journey to motherhood and the events that ultimately changed our roles on Mother’s Day. Please come back and join us!