With Mother’s Day coming next month, we wanted to share some of the key moments in our journey to motherhood. My previous pregnancy had ended in a miscarriage and while the pregnancy was unplanned, and it would have been a difficult time for me to raise a baby, I was devastated beyond my imagination.
I was going through an especially stressful time in my life and not menstruating for 3 to 4 months at a time was “regular” so I hadn’t considered the possibility that I was pregnant when I had a bad flu and was crippled by fatigue. I was randomly griping about my never-ending flu symptoms and fatigue when someone suggested I take a pregnancy test. To my surprise I was more than two months pregnant!
Boy did I freak out and started worrying- my diet was atrocious (pretty much just gallons of diet coke to battle the fatigue) and I had taken so much cold and flu medicine!! I stopped drinking all caffeine and medicine and started taking prenatal vitamins immediately but a month later, I felt a strange dropping sensation and I started to worry. That night, I tried hard to sleep but I couldn’t nudge the feeling something was wrong. Around 3 AM, I felt the urge to use the bathroom and that’s when I started to bleed.
It was difficult news to share, especially with my dad who really wanted more grandkids and was extremely disappointed. He is superstitious and had strongly voioced that I should not have revealed the pregnancy before the second trimester so this was his I told you so.
It’s been a decade since that horrific night but I still miss and think often of my unborn child. A few months ago I was going through old photos and came across the belly pictures I had started taking and couldn’t decide if I should keep or delete them.
FINALLY PREGNANT AGAIN
Unlike Melissa and Stephanie, it was years after planning to start a family before I was pregnant again. Despite the elation of finally getting pregnant, and wanting to shout on rooftops, I was also hesitant to announce my pregnancy given what had happened. In fact, I felt like I was holding my breath from the moment I found out I was pregnant till months after my daughter was born.
TELLING IMMEDIATE FAMILY & CLOSE FRIENDS
I went with the need-to-know principle and less than a handful of people knew right away. Needless to say, I did not tell my dad until the beginning of the second trimester. At this time, the Mister and I told our immediate family members as well as we felt if we waited any longer, some may feel slighted.
The disappointment one family member expressed when she found out that I was pregnant and not just gaining weight was hilarious.
BEING DISCOVERED AT WORK (AT ALMOST 6 MONTHS)
At work, I had called HR and they said as long as they have the due date, I just work with my manager on coverage. There were no timelines it seemed (I called three times and never got an actual answer) both the paper work for maternity leave and the actual leave doesn’t start until after I give birth and not something I can do ahead of time so I had planned to talk to my manager after the 20 week gender revealing visit but my manager and I played meeting tag a few times and left it at that. Besides, it had become almost a game hiding my growing bump successfully.
But people started murmuring when I was almost 6 months pregnant. It ended up being people coming to my office to “ask” and probe instead of me making an announcement. One coworker said she had a suspicion much earlier because I had switched from my usual high heels for flats as soon as I found out I was pregnant.
Since it was obvious now that I was pregnant, I set up a baby pool on expectnet and sent it to all my friends and family because I thought it was a fun way to make the announcement but several friends thought I was annoying for setting up the baby pool. So my attempt at a fun announcement backfired, but it was a relief when everyone finally knew because it was hard keeping secrets.
So my attempt at a fun reveal was a big flop, but I think Melissa executed it perfectly. Did you check out her announcement post?